There will always be moments where life feels overwhelming or unfulfilling. We feel stuck in a routine and life just doesn’t excite us the way it used to. There are a few things we can do to get out of this hole. And it always starts with a mindset-shift. Here are a few thing that will help you move forward, let go, have trust in life again and get excited for what’s coming.
Let go
I know from first-hand experience how painful it can feel to force ourselves to let go of something we really wanted. But life might feel dull when we hold onto things not meant for us and when we force something, perhaps staying with a person or a job when it wasn’t meant for us. If we feel like this over a longer period of time it means something isn’t the way it’s supposed to be, otherwise life would feel more fulfilling and just ‘right’. Always do what is best for you, walk away from unhealthy situations and follow your intuition. Just because something is painful to let go of, it doesn’t mean you should hold onto it.
Remember your Blessings
Especially when we face hard situations or when we feel low, numb, tired or sad, it’s really easy to forget how blessed we are. Don’t ignore your potential and the opportunities in front of you. If you have a roof over your head, a bed to sleep in, clean water and food every day, you are richer than majority of people on earth. If you have access to health care and education, you have the resources to make your dreams happen. If you have family and friends who support, you’re much stronger than you think you are. We are incredibly blessed with everything we have. Let’s look around and appreciate our lives instead of letting the things that aren’t working out the way we wanted them to make us lose faith in life. Life is still beautiful. You have time and you can make so much of yourself!
Be grateful
With appreciation comes gratitude. It’s what makes us see how beautiful life can actually be. We tend to dwell in our sad moments. Sometimes, nothing seems to work the way we hoped it would. But that’s no reason to make your life revolve around what’s not going your way and instead remembering who we are, where we are, what we can do and what our lives can still become. You having had a set-back, does not mean life won’t turn out good. If the days all seem to look the same, it doesn’t mean you won’t find joy again. It’s key to never lose faith, not give up and not get worked up in sadness and anger.
Reframe your Mindset
Changing how we perceive life usually comes from changes that we make in our mind first. Feeling appreciation and gratitude is one way of doing this. But try to see the positive of every negative as well. You might be tired of your job, but doesn’t it provide you a home, food and clothes every month? School might be very demanding but do you know how many children long for an education like yours? You might be hard on your body because it doesn’t look perfect but you’re healthy, you still have your arms and legs, your ability to see and speak. Your siblings, parents, partner or friends might be going on your nerves. But aren’t you so glad to have them? Knowing that you can trust them, that they have your back and support you? You need them more than you think. Don’t take these things for granted.
Do a Mind-dump
It’s a good idea to figure out what’s going on inside of you that makes you feel the way you’re feeling right now. You might still suffer from past wounds that keep showing up in your life and making it harder without you realizing. Try journaling, meditation, shadow work and sitting in silence to find out who hurt you and how, why you follow certain patterns and how to overcome them. In my case, through a toxic relationship I started mistrusting people, fearing they would abandon me, lie to me or hurt me. I then realized that I had a hard time tearing down the walls I built to protect my heart. As a result, my relationships suffered from this. Try to understand what causes the feelings you’re having and where they come from. Then work on healing your wounds. It’s in your best interest.
Find a new Path to follow
If you feel stuck in life, or your daily routine might bore, numb or suffocate you, it’s time to change something. It’s likely that life has lost its spark because you’re stuck in a routine that no longer excites you. I suggest you try something you have never done before. Whether that’s visiting a new café, traveling to a place you’ve never been to before, learning a new skill, trying a new hobby, meeting new people. It will give you a new perspective on life. Doing something sparks new joy in you will raise your vibrations. It’s also a good way to take your mind off things that are hurting you and distract you from any pain. Personally, it’s salsa dancing that will always pull me out of a hole. I truly can’t describe the feeling of connecting to people through dance.
Trust the Universe
It’s totally normal to feel stuck. But you have to remember that nothing will stay the way it is. Sometimes we need to lose something in order to receive something else. We need to feel uncomfortable in a place so that we move into a different direction. Just because something didn’t work out the way you thought it would, doesn’t mean it was bad. The universe has your best interest in mind. Your spirit guides guide you at all times You will be able to find support anywhere on earth. You will find things that you love doing. You will meet new people that will mean the world to you. Change your perspective on things, trust your intuition, change everything you can and everything out of your control you give over to the universe. It will bring you to where you’re supposed to go.
Hope, this helped you in any way.
Love, Valentina <3
