I know what it’s like to look into the mirror and not like what you see. It’s an awful feeling to dislike your own appearance because we know that we can’t just change that about us. We might blame our bodies for the way others treat us, for how much love we think we receive or deserve, for our loneliness or even for our low self-worth. Of course, that hurts our self esteem and might trigger a number of issues. Essentially, how we feel about our body might determine our life quality. However, there are a number of spiritual reasons why finally appreciating how our bodies look is the only way good to go through this life. Even if, at first, it seems like an impossible thing to do.
Your body is a tool
Whatever you do in this life is not about your outside. It’s what you learn as a soul, what kind of experiences you make in this life and what you take from that. Your body is like a shell, a cover, a house where your soul lives in. The only reason we need a body is to be able to move around on this earth, so that we can make human experiences. What your body looks like is not important at all regarding your spiritual journey and growth. It’s mainly about who you are, how you think, talk, walk, speak to others, how you love and suffer, show emotions, treat other people and animals. How you choose to speak to yourself, how much love you can give and receive, the passions you have, the things that make you feel alive, the way you apologize or open your heart.
This body was your choice
Here, I explained that before we get born we choose the most fitting body out of several options. The most fitting body being the one that coincides with the kind of life we want to live in this lifetime. We had several options, differing in gender, race, level of attractiveness, level of wealth, country, health, features, family, etc. I know that there are people out there that look like they have it all. But in reality, their goals for their growth as a soul were just different than yours. We all know that women live different lives as men. Someone born in South America learns different lessons than someone born in Europe. Rich people deal with different things than poor people. Attractive people get treated differently than less attractive people. Your body is a direct reflection of the kind of lessons you’re supposed to – or rather get to – learn this time.
Your body was a gift
I heard Matthew Hussey say that we should imagine receiving our bodies as a gift at the start of our lives from a higher power – that could be God, nature, destiny, etc. In this lifetime you get to care for this body. Or rather, that’s your job. And instead of resenting the body you were gifted, you would be much better off to treat it with all the kindness you have to give. Imagine what you body has done for you so far. The places it has taken you, the songs it has danced to, the people it has hugged and kissed, the animals it has petted, the food it has fed you, the tears it has wiped off your face, the oceans it has dove in, the books it has read you, the sunsets it has shown you. Don’t you know how many reasons there are to being endlessly grateful for the body you were given? Do you know what you would miss out on if you didn’t have this body? It’s time to give back to your body by treating it a little better, don’t you think? Or at least don’t punish it for not being perfect!
Your body influences the kind of experiences you have
The way you look influences in what direction you might go in life. Above, I said that men and women, different races, different levels of attractiveness experience different things, or treatments in life. I have written before that ‘pretty privilege’ is a big thing. It says that the more beautiful someone is, the better they get treated by people. However, at the same time those people might have more difficulties connecting with people on deeper, more intimate levels because most people are intimidated by them or see them as competition. One might feel left out or ignored and the other one might feel more lonely. Both might struggle with self-esteem or self-worth issues. Beauty is objective. Whoever might want to talk to you because of the way you look is more likely to connect with you.
Your body will attract the right kind of people for you
I have read somewhere that it is actually impossible for you to find your soulmate unattractive. Meaning that whoever your soulmate is, they will find the beauty in you that maybe not everyone is able to see. They could never overlook us or not appreciate our features, and all the other things we have to offer. If someone does overlook you, you just got saved from meeting someone that wasn’t the right person for you. If you feel like you don’t get noticed as much because you have issues with the way you look, just remember that the people that didn’t choose to get to know you weren’t your person. The people that see your value, are the ones that not only see beneath your shell – see your heart, your soul, your values – but they also will appreciate you body and your physical appearance – even if you don’t yet.
Disliking yourself isn’t natural
Have you ever wondered why humans are the only species that judges themselves for what they look like? Have you ever seen a cat or a fish or a cow do that? Do you think they compare themselves to others? Here, I wrote that humans, as the only species on earth, have developed the skill of self-awareness. That’s why we also judge ourselves and others in terms of being ‘good’ or ‘bad’. We don’t judge a lion for killing animals because we know it’s their nature. We are spiritual and celestial beings. Our nature is to exist. We are energy. We create, we connect, we attract, we love, we feel deep emotions that are all valid and beautiful. The last thing we should care about is what we look like from the outside. Most of our self-doubts come from what we are dictated from outside. We learn this behavior. It’s not natural.
If you are struggling with these matters at the moment, I really hope I was able to grant you a different kind of view to a topic that is so familiar to us. Thank you for reading, with lots of love,
Valentina <3
