Sometimes, you have to lift yourself onto a plane to scale the sky & embrace the (spiritual) journey. Photo: Pexels
Before you say anything, the words I have chosen for this essay – living life as a loser – are rather harsh, I know. After several years of writing about spirituality, I have come to an important conclusion. I have written about destiny and karma and soulmates and energy and the value of suffering and about several philosophical questions.
At first, I asked myself why we experience the things we do, then I explained why we need to understand that a hard life can actually still be good, and that everything happens for a reason. But more and more, I have asked myself, what can we do to make our own lives better. And how do we actually do that?
Should we accept everything that happens to us? Can we create any reality for ourselves for us if we wanted to? But what if our lives are simply just meant to be hard, so we can learn stuff?. What about our own power of creation? Don’t we all have a purpose in life? Should and can we pursue our passions and love live truly, even if destiny presents us one hard lesson after the other? These are my conclusions…
Distinguish between what you can and cannot do
I have stated often, and what I will never change my mind on this, that there is a destiny we are part of that we cannot fight, even if we wanted to. We create a plan for our lives, that contains a number of difficulties and lessons that we need to learn so we can grow as a soul. Without pain and hardship, there is no advancement in our journeys.
We have elected people that will cross our paths, places that will feel like home, passions and a purpose to pursue, pains and hardships to endure and overcome and lessons to embrace. Those things will happen either way. The important aspect is though what you make of what you are presented with. And this is where the point I’m trying to make comes in.
We do have the power to make our lives beautiful, or hard. It all depends on our inner strength, our mindset and how much we love ourselves and others. I wrote about passions and purpose, about potential, limiting beliefs, a shallow society, our own enemies that live inside our heads, a positive mindset, the identity we give ourselves, to name only a few. So trust me when I say I have dealt with this topic extensively.
How to be the master of your own Life
There is a difference between those people who kind of let their lives happen to them, and those who become the master of theirs. No matter what happens to you, no matter where you grew up, what you experienced, had to deal with, lost or had to learn the hard way, the way you handle each and every situation lies in your power.
We all have the ability to create, to build, to construct and establish. We can get our a**es of our beds and go for a run, or have a hot shower, or read a book – or write one, or communicate with loved ones, or cook a meal for ourselves, or invest our money, or get an education, or get help if we need any, or trust ourselves a little more.
I often think about the time when Jordan Peterson said something like ‘it’s astonishing how little encouragement people need and how they have none’. We could achieve so much if we just believed a little bit in our abilities.
I can only tell you how good it felt to leave the house in a shirt I sewed myself, writing a blog for my own platform, that I created myself, and then go off to dance class to dance flamenco.
You have to be your own biggest fan
I don’t want to elaborate the concept of own best friends vs. biggest enemy again. But it is you who needs to cheer for yourself. Be better than most of society who spends their whole lives working and watching TV or scrolling on their phones, who is addicted to their negative thinking patterns and can’t live in the present moment.
Nobody is coming to save you, or fight your battles for you. If you don’t fix your emotional health, your mental health, your physical health, if you don’t work on your mindset, if you don’t build a business, or adopt a pet or move to a city you have always wanted to live in, nobody will do it for you.
At the end of the day, you are the master of your own fate. Because you do have the ability to take the cards you have been dealt with and play the game most to your advantage.
Why living a life of misery is never helping your spiritual Journey
You do have a purpose in this life. And if it is not to save every animal that has ever been abandoned, or every person that has ever been mistreated, then it is to create. Please create something. Have goals and standards for yourself. You could be the next Albert Camus, but you’re messing it up because you’re too scared or too lazy to try something new.
You don’t need to master everything. Actually, you don’t even need to be good at anything. But you do need to try something that has the potential to make your life worthwhile. Build something. Take care of yourself. Encourage yourself. A little bit, but everyday. Try something you’ve never done before. Pick your shit up behind yourself.
Build a legacy. Have values. Make friends. Be healthy. Find a reason to get up in the morning. And embrace every difficulty that comes your way. It’s only there because you can handle it. Remember, you chose this for yourself, you can handle it too.
There is nothing more un-spiritual than spending all your grey days in your bed, or your life as a loser, hoping for better times to come. You need to make the best of yourself and of every situation in order to be able to call yourself spiritual. A positive mindset and the ability to accept any situation is how every spiritual person started their journey – a journey beyond and within.
Let me know what else you would add to this essay.
Love, Valentina <3
