Someone you decide to marry could be your big love, your soulmate. Or not. Photo: Pexels
I think I have mentioned a handful of times before that I absolutely believe in the concept of soulmates. It actually is the thing I’m most sure about when I think about spirituality. That being said, I have spent a good amount of time thinking about the matter of ‘right person, wrong time’ and whether or not it exists.
Without thinking about it too much, I would say, no, it doesn’t exist. But after careful consideration, I have changed my mind. Hear me out!
Destiny’s flawless match-making skills
To me, destiny is like a perfectly written screenplay. One that leaves room for spontaneity and interpretation. As I have stated before, destiny presents us with certain things in life – like people, destinations, jobs, animals, opportunities, etc. – that are meant for us.
Destiny makes us encounter those. But once that happened, we are free of what we want to do with it. We do have our own will, that allows us to make and take decisions that will shape our lives.
In short, that means that if we are supposed to meet someone – let’s assume that someone is our soulmate – then we will meet them, in one way or another. When and where that encounter will take place does not lie in our hands. Neither do we have a say or an influence in this.
Right person, wrong time?
If we do meet someone special, and two people decide to be together, that is no guarantee that they will end up for good. Even if they initially wanted to. The concept of ‘wrong time’ implies that something went wrong and that – even if that person might be the right one for you – for some reason you are not supposed to be together.
The thing though is that we have to idea, where life might take us. Everything that comes after this moment is unknown to us. That directly implies that just because we are not meant to be together right now, does not mean that this will never be the case.
Your improved self needs you
The thing is that usually, when a couple says that it was the wrong time for them, one or both of them needs to be somewhere else in that moment. Imagine that someone falls in love with someone who doesn’t live in their country. Or they move away, or they have other occupations at the moment.
Maybe they have someone or something they have to take care of first, or they found someone else… This means that they right now need to be somewhere else. Or with someone else.
Most of the time however, whatever they are doing right now that hinders them to be with you will make them a better person (implying that every experience we make on earth will help our self-development, whether the experiences were good or bad).
Usually, people need to grow and learn and heal first, before they are ready for their great love. We might not see this at the time, but a higher power knows what’s going on.
Does the universe fight for souls to be together?
The simple answer to this question is yes and no. The universe does not ‘fight’ for anything. Life is a mixture of destiny and own will. It’s a game.
At the end, it doesn’t really matter how you decided to live your life. The only thing that matters are what you took from it. That being said, we are presented with several chances in order to accept something into our lives that is actually meant to be there.
If we look at it that way, ‘right person, wrong time’ is not a bad thing, as it doesn’t mean you lost that one person you were actually meant to be with. If you lost someone for good, they were no longer supposed to be in your life, and therefore weren’t the ‘right one’ anyway. And ‘wrong time’ doesn’t mean ‘never’, it just means ‘not yet’.
The shaping of your right person
I have heard of many stories of people who got back together after a long time. They now live their lives happily together. Before, they had some obstacles to conquer, some decisions to make, some wounds to heal, or maybe even a family to create.
Only after several years were they able to come back to you. And they eventually did. Now, it will finally be ‘right person, right time’. If they don’t, all this time it was just ‘wrong person, wrong time’.
And if that happens, that is not something to worry about as everything that isn’t meant for us will be replaced by something that is, something better.
The choice is yours
Lastly, I briefly want to mention that, of course, it is possible that two people that are soulmates actually decide not to marry one another. Not all soulmates are our partners. Instead, they are our siblings, our parents, our children, our friends, etc.
Should that be the case for you, that’s also okay. Because that is the turn your life took and you can still be very happy with that and lead a fulfilling life. Not all husbands and wives are soulmates. That pressure would be immense.
What to take from this, now? I guess, just the fact that all will work out in the end. And if it doesn’t you have plenty of lifetimes to be together and find your soulmate! Please share with me whether you also believe in soulmates and if you think you found yours :))
Lots of love, Valentina <3
Written by Valentina – spiritual writer & founder of Valentina’s Diary
