This is how liberating it can feel to finally be able to free yourself from your inner negativity. Photo: Pexels
After currently reading “Becoming Supernatural” by Dr. Joe Dispenza for the second time, I, after all this time, came to a realization: I am addicted to negativity. And I have good reason to think so, thanks to Dispenza’s ability to explain complicated matters.
Oftentimes, people are their own biggest enemy, because of the emotional addictions they have created for themselves over the course of their lives. Let me explain, and it will make as much sense to you as it made for me.
I have written about whether we are our own best friend or biggest enemy. I talked about what exactly we think that could make our lives worse. But now, I finally understood why we let our minds become our own biggest enemy. And once understood, it will be a game changer!
How we create our own realities – over and over again
All that exists on this earth, must first have been created in someone’s mind. We only go to the bathroom because our minds tell us that we should. We only eat, because our minds tell us that we’re hungry. It’s our minds who create the cravings for a snack that we give in to. We make ourselves a cup of coffee only because our mind created the desire for it.
Every invention first had to be thought of before it could be created physically. All that we do, we only do because our mind created the corresponding desire for it. And we obey our minds.
On the one hand, we can use this realization to try to manifest something. If we want something, we create the thought of it in our minds, we match the emotions and frequencies to that desire, we will call to ourselves and it will align with us. With the energetic frequencies our minds were able to manipulate us onto.
But that’s not the point of my story here.
How we create addictions we are not aware of
Every mind’s thought follows and emotion. And this emotion then follows an action. For now, let’s leave the action out and focus on the former two. When we think the same thoughts often – as I will explain we actually do – the same emotions will be triggered over and over again.
We think that it’s our thoughts who make us happy, sad, angry, frustrated. But it’s actually the other way. As it usually is the case, when we “consume” something often enough, we start to crave it. And the same applies for our emotions.
We think we don’t actually like to get frustrated over little things, over our boss and coworkers, our partners, or kids, or traffic or our own bodies. Yet our bodies crave the emotions we feel so often. And so our minds make us think thoughts that lead us to those emotions and allows us to have the corresponding experiences.
When, finally, we start crying, or swearing, or shouting, our bodies are finally happy. The hormones have been released that made us feel what we feel so often, what feels so familiar, what we have been craving. All of this only happens subconsciously, we aren’t aware of it, of course.
We find it ridiculous to think that we secretly like feeling as miserable as we so often do. Yet it makes totally sense once you realize it.
How your mind really acts as your own biggest enemy
The mind is a traitor, in that regard. It doesn’t want for you what feels best. We know that because we would actually know how to be happy. We would only have to feel thoughts that trigger “happy hormones” that then makes us feel happy as well. What can exist, first must be created in your mind, remember?
And so, instead of allowing you to feel your best, and thinking the corresponding thoughts, your mind makes you think things that make you miserable instead, because it thinks that that’s what you really want. You have been thinking these same things so often now, you know how to handle them. Familiar is always good.
What to not do from now on
Whenever you are in a bad mood, you have most likely put yourself in there. You see, you do have the power to choose how you react to the situations you’re in, the mindset you choose to have. It’s normal for us to try to protect ourselves from situations we think might be bad for us.
That’s why we demonize people who don’t always act according to the expectations we have of them. We get mad at our partner, our kids, our boss, our coworkers, officials, job workers, any one who puts our limits to the test. We can choose to not let ourselves be affected by any of that.
Instead of giving everyone and everything around us our attention and our energy, we could put it inwards and give it to ourselves. Or use it to create a different destiny for ourselves.
How to actually get rid of your own biggest enemy
From now on, every time you have a negative thought, one that could totally ruin your mood… Recognize that it is not actually necessary to allow your mind to think that thought. And most often, it’s not even true. Recognize that your mind will think anything to make you mad, sad, frustrated, because it knows your addicted to that negative state you’re so often in.
Instead, consciously choose to look at the bright side of things. Choose the happy thoughts, look at all the good sides of that situations. Remind yourself of what might actually be true, not what you’re imagining. Soothe yourself.
The happy thoughts will the trigger the happy hormones, which will make you feel happy too. Over time you will be able to get out of that constant negative state. And your lives will automatically become better.
But be aware of the fact that it has taken years of negative thinking to make you addicted to negativity. It will most likely take just as long to reverse it as well. But you need to make yourself aware of what’s going on in your mind and you must fight it.
Only that way you will be able to chase away your own biggest enemy that lives in your head.
Love, Valentina <3
