Like the moon, destiny has a big impact on our lives. But that doesn’t mean we don’t have a say. Photo: Pexels
A few days ago, when my algorithm on Instagram picked up on the kind of videos I enjoy watching sometimes, I was presented with a bunch of videos. They talked about what the plan of our life is, why trusting in a higher power is essential to survival, why we have a free will in only certain situations and why some things are only ever meant to come into our lives at a set time and place.
I now want to share with you to provide you with a little bit of comfort. In case you need it.
What is written in the stars?
We don’t have a choice in every aspect of our lives. If we did, the concept of destiny would be irrelevant. But that doesn’t mean that our entire life is preplanned for us. Because then we would be some random play figures in somebody else’s game.
It is clearly determined what aspects of our life are destiny and which ones are our own free will. And firstly, let me tell you this much: chance doesn’t exist.
Nothing takes place by chance. Destiny therefore is what happens to us. This includes the people we meet, accidents that occur, job opportunities that come our way, diseases we get, etc.
It’s also what doesn’t happen to us. Sometimes, we really want to be with someone, but they leave us. We could work hard for a job and not be hired in the end. We could really want to go somewhere but we are hindered.
These things are part of a plan. They push us into a direction we’re supposed to go.
What can we decide for ourselves?
Now, what we do with those incidents that’s our own choice. When destiny (or let’s say God, the Universe, angels, or your spirit guides, whatever you believe in) made you meet a person – so they sent you somewhere where you’d meet someone – that was planned.
But if you decide to not give them your number, not date them, only be in a friendship with them (even though they would have made a good husband or wife for you) that is your choice! If you’re given an amazing job opportunity, that is destiny. But if you decide not to take it because you changed your mind, then that’s your free will.
Of course, this implies that whatever we want in our life is dependent on destiny’s initiative. If we really want a long-term committed relationship (meaning we already know what our decision would be) but we just don’t meet someone we like, there’s nothing really we can do. If we really want a job, but nobody wants to give us a job, we will not get this job!
Something that’s not meant for us…
Something that’s not supposed to happen just won’t come along, it’s that simple. Also, something that is meant for us to stay will not require us to force anything. It will come naturally to us and it will feel right.
Now, if you have a person that you really like but they just don’t show up the way you want them to, probably they’re not the right ones for you. Mixed signals are an indication of something that isn’t right. The right one would not make you question or doubt anything!
On top of that, remember that sometimes you are meant to have things, but you’re not meant to have them yet. This means that just because you don’t have something yet, doesn’t mean you’re never supposed to have it!
I saw a video of a girl who said that sometimes we have the patience of a microwave. But God (or destiny etc.) is working with a crocks pot. That second meal is probably going to taste much better, but it requires us to be more patient. So, it’s our job let the universe be the cook of our meals because it’s their job, not ours!
To finish this message, something that’s supposed to be in your life will never have to be forced. And something that’s taken away from you will always be replaced with something better!
Something that is meant for us…
On the other hand, of course just like there are things that just are not meant to happen, no matter how much we want them to, there are also things that just can’t be taken away from us because it’s in our live’s plan and it’s supposed to happen to us.
Talking about relationships again – if your soulmate is supposed to be in your life, you will meet them. And if you turn away from them, you probably will encounter them again at some point.
Of course, as I said above, you have the choice in what you want to do with something that is handed to you. If you prefer to have a deep friendship with the person you love the most, then you’ re allowed to have that.
Something that’s meant for you can’t be taken away. Again, just because you don’t have it now, doesn’t mean you’re not going to receive it later! So, trust in a bigger power is essential to lead a soft live. One, that doesn’t require you to enforce things, which will lead to anxiety and stress.
Last important point: Sometimes people (or whatever it is) is meant to teach us a lesson and is therefore supposed to be in our lives for a certain amount of time and then leave!
Oftentimes, you won’t be allowed to keep something forever, because destiny planned on letting them stay with you only for a certain amount of time and then removes them from your life!
But what have we learnt so far? Something better will then come along!
How to let go of control and trust instead
Trying to control where we’re going in live will not only not work, it will also stress us out in a lot of different ways. No benefit is derived from worrying about why we’re not where we’re wanting to be in life already. We could never control the outcome of something, at most we can decide the direction we want to move in.
But a higher power already knows the plan for your life. Whatever is supposed to happen will happen, and it can’t be taken away from you. What you do with what’s offered to you is then your choice, that’s your free will.
Whatever is not meant for you will never work out. No matter how hard you try to make it work, it will always feel forced. It’s possible that something is only supposed to stay with you for a short amount of time and will be taken from you even if you don’t want to.
But here too it doesn’t make sense to try to change the outcome, because again it will bring you unnecessary stress. It’s crucial to trust that whatever you lost will be replaced with something better. Because it will!
Take care, Valentina <3
Written by Valentina – spiritual writer & founder of Valentina’s Diary
