How to get back in touch with yourself if you lost that connection!

Do you know this feeling when you’re in the midst of one of your daily tasks, and suddenly realize that you live on autopilot? And that that has been the case for a while now? Exactly that realization I had a few days ago. And to be honest, what a shock! When you suddenly realize that you haven’t checked in with yourself on how your feeling, you haven’t even asked yourself how you’re doing let alone what you need to thrive? It’s a bitter feeling. You suddenly realize that you have betrayed yourself a little in exchange for everybody else to be happy with you. But haven’t been truly happy with yourself for a while? It sucks. I realized I had to look for that connection with my inner self in order to get happier again, otherwise I would end up in a rut. If you find yourself in that same situation, this text is for you. So, here’s everything I did right after and what I’m still doing to reconnect. This is how to get back in touch with yourself!

The realization comes first

You can’t change something you don’t notice. So, if you’re caught up in a busy life right now, ask yourself how you’re doing! It’s so easy for us to forget that our own well-being – besides showering, eating and sleeping – is crucial to successfully get through our days. What have you been feeling lately? What are you struggling with? Are you stressed? Are you lonely? Have you been missing someone? Are you so busy you neglect basic but important tasks? When was the last time you saw your friends? or did something fun? When was the last time you relaxed a little? What inspires you? Or what do you usually do that sparks you inside you that you have not done in a while? Why are you sad, or upset, or mad? Check in on yourself! Otherwise, you have nowhere to start!

Listen to that inner voice

I recommend asking those questions out loud, ideally you watch yourself in the mirror, perhaps with a cup of tea in your hand. You know, like you would talk to a good friend to. Whatever answer first comes up in your head is usually a true one. Don’t try to belittle the answers you’re getting. Take yourself seriously. Show up for yourself. Believe anything that happens in that mind of yours. If you truly take time to hear that inner voice, it will speak to you. And you can ask it anything. I think if you’re truly showing up for yourself, your subconscious mind, your higher self, your shadow side or your inner child will start talking. Don’t just listen, hear them!

The power of silence

Personally, I listen to A LOT of music. I know people that turn the TV on just to hear voices in the background so that they don’t feel alone. Most people do something like that. But the real things are happening in silence. Sitting in silence, just staring at the ceiling or out the window will bring so much clarity. We only notice it once we do it. I don’t do it often but when I do, it feels so good. Meditating is even better, since you’re actively trying to seek out that clarity and inner connection. In my case, that was when the tears came! Luckily!

Let the storm clear the path

In my opinion, a good cry session always makes you feel good afterwards. It’s a way to carry the hurt and upset out of your body. Don’t ever forbid yourself to cry or express your emotions. And doesn’t make you weaker! It’s like the rain who clears the path and makes it easier to walk on later on. But then, action is required.

Show up for yourself

It’s not enough to acknowledge your suffering. You have to show up for yourself from that point onwards. Whatever you need, you need to give to yourself. Whether that’s more time, more sleep, more leisure reading, more regular meals, more time outside, more time with friends, more time doing less, less of what you have to do and more of what you want to do. Maybe you should make some investments in yourself? Buy yourself something to signal to your self that you matter. Don’t mistreat yourself or your body. It’s working hard for you. If you’ve gotten to that point where you break down because you’re overwhelmed with life, where what you have on your back is heavier than what you can carry, when even sending a text message feels like a burden, then you have obviously overworked yourself already. You’re not a slave. Don’t treat your body like one either. Instead give it what it needs so it can thrive again.

Be your own biggest fan

One thing I’m so happy about is that I’m at least always on my own side. You can’t work yourself into struggle and also be your own biggest critique. At least acknowledge what you’re doing. Tell yourself you’re proud of your own efforts. Tell yourself you look pretty, that you can do it. Personally, I’m not the biggest fan of speaking affirmations to the mirror. But whenever I catch myself, I do say out loud things that make me feel good. If you’re not seeing what you’re doing, how hard you’re working, how valuable you are, how smart and capable you are, how are others supposed to see it? Being your own biggest fan is a must throughout the entire journey. It’s not something you only do when life is flowing. You cheer for yourself especially during the difficult times. Let yourself know that you are proud of who you are and of what you’re doing!

Hope, this made you feel a little better and helped get back in touch with yourself a little more!

Love, Valentina <3