Some people let themselves get incredibly stressed by life, forgetting that we can’t go wrong in life. As usual, this is so much easier said than done, and I’m one the first people on earth to get stressed by little things. But what we shouldn’t forget – what I also always try to remind myself, and now you – is that we come to this earth for one thing only: to learn. As souls we want to make experiences, preferably in situations we’ve never been in. And so we choose different bodies in different lifetimes for different reasons, to learn different lessons.
The lives (aka schools) we choose…
One time we’re richer, we’re prettier, smarter, live in healthy families, peaceful environments, have access to education and have opportunities in front of us – life is supposedly easy. And other times we might have to fight poverty, war, sickness, we might not like our physical aspects, we live in different parts of the world, as a different gender this time and in toxic families. This time, life will probably be harder. And still, we can’t say it just as easily. The first one might have to fight terrible internal wars, or will never find love, or will lose someone important through accidents, or might be mistreated by society. Whereas the latter one could live a difficult life in the traditional sense, but be fulfilled and loved and still happy.
Whatever our lives are like, they serve a purpose to us. One we might not always understand. Wherever we go, we learn things. This is why I said life is a school. One can not live one life and call himself a master. It takes many different lifetimes to get ‘old’ and ‘wise’ and ‘experienced’. So, in the meantime, what can you do to benefit from each and every single thing that happens to you, good and bad?
Turn your suffering into something good
I have talked in great detail about this before. Even though suffering causes us pain in the moment, it helps us grow like no other state of being. Through hardship you learn to trust yourself, to get to know who you are, to stand up for yourself, to turn inward, to listen to your intuition, to ask for help, to look for solutions. These lessons are so valuable! Your character gets stronger, you get more resilient, your intellect deepens and so does your trust in life and in yourself. You’ll learn to treat others and yourself better too. After the storm is over you stand taller than you have ever before.
See the flowers after the rain
I used to hate this phrase because I didn’t understand it, not until I lived it. Or as Rosalía said in her song Sakura, which I love by the way: “No siempre puedes ser una estrella y brillar” (not always can you be a star and shine). We’re not machines that run the same on a daily basis. We have days with more energy and less, we have phases where we love ourselves more than during others, sometimes we have better routines than other times. We might be more inspired or disciplined, feel more loved (which gives us strength, by the way). Sometimes in life we’re sadder, others we’re happier. And it’s totally normal. After the rain comes the sunshine and that’s what it’s like in life too.
Embrace change
Even though it can be incredibly hurtful, change is good. Change presents us different types of versions of life that we might not have encountered had everything always gone the same way. It presents us new people, but it might cost us old ones. Sometimes, we’re forced to let someone go. Sometimes we have to leave a place we felt wonderful in. But we need to see new places too. With change come new experiences and as explained above, that’s what makes life so interesting. And that’s also what we need to have lived a good and full life.
Accept lessons and learn
It’s completely normal to not like every aspect of our lives. Rejection can be redirection. Things that have not worked out for us show us new perspectives. At the end of our lives we are nothing but the sum of everything that happened to us during our life and everything we learned from that. So, the more changes, the more experiences, the more lessons – whether they’re good or bad doesn’t really matter, we need both – the better of a life we have lived. And by the way: if you find yourself in the same situations over and over again, understand one thing. A lessons will repeat itself until you learned it. So, never fight a lesson. No matter how hard and difficult they are, they serve a purpose. Instead, try to grow from it. Life is full of exams. But you can never fail, only get better.
Be curious and be open
Don’t reject what life brings your way. Welcome things that come into your life with a smile and an embrace and wave goodbye to the things that are leaving – with a smile also. Don’t be bitter about the things that didn’t happen. Instead, be curious about what could happen and be open to experience it. Strive for a broad spectrum of events and don’t close yourself off. Try new things, dancing, cooking, climbing, travel to new places, ones you haven’t seen before and be open to meet new people.
Go with the flow
This is something I had to accept recently. I feel like I’m not the only one who has the urge to control what happens to them as an attempt to minimize anxiety about scary things that could happen. We overthink, we stress, we cling, we hold on, we control and then – we get disappointed. We’re supposed to let life come towards us – and embrace everything that’s coming on that journey. At the end of the day, you can’t control anything. And the faster you realize this, the easier life gets and the more relaxed you’ll be while living the experience.
So, have fun.
Love, Valentina <3
