What’s a soulmate? “It’s like a best friend but more. It’s the one person in the world who knows you better than anyone else. That someone who makes you a better person. No, actually they don’t make you a better person. You do that by yourself because they inspire you. A soulmate is someone you carry with you forever. It’s one person who knew you, accepted you and believed in you before anyone else did or when no one else would. And no matter what happens, you’ll always love them, and nothing could ever change that.” – Dawson’s Creek
What does “Soulmate” even mean?
Back home – this means the universe – we are connected with multiple souls. We “live” in different soul clusters and within them spend our time with a closer circle of souls. Our friends, so to say. But I will write about this in detail soon. Nevertheless, part of our friend group are our soulmates. We have multiple soulmates, four to be specific. I have only heard this number once though, which is why I reserve the right to change this information soon. However, there are several!
A soulmate is a soul – a divine being, a spirit, an energy – that is closer to us than all other souls. We are connected to them on a higher level and will only feel truly like we are whole when we are with them. As humans – so when we spend a lifetime on planet earth – we want to meet them and feel close to them in order to be truly happy. But we don’t always get to meet them.
How do souls appear to us?
Something that might appear strange or unexpected to you is the fact that soulmates do not have to be our lovers – they can be, but they don’t have to. Our soulmates can reincarnate as any person close to us – a mother, a sibling, a friend, a spouse or just a stranger. It depends on what purpose they fulfill in our life and what role they play when teaching us something. And remember, your spouse in this life can be your mother in the next. Again, it depends on destiny whether we get to meet them, but in the end the decision of whether or not we want to be and stay with them is ours. It’s called the free will. Read this text about destiny, fate and our free will.
How do we meet them?
First of all, it is not guaranteed that we meet them or if we do, that we recognize them. But! Before we get born, we have a – let’s say a meeting – with all people souls that are going to be in our lives, so siblings, parents, friends, partners and so on. Our soulmates will be there too, of course! Little triggers or signs will get implanted in us that will enable us to recognize our soulmates when we meet them. These could be a piece of clothing, a scent, a sound or a color, maybe the color of someone’s eyes for example.
But there could be other signs too. In the book “Journey of Souls” by Michael Newton one of Newton’s clients said that he was about to marry his high school sweetheart that he was very happy with. Something inside him however had small, almost unnoticeable doubts (sign 1). It was then his sister who told him not to marry her, move to a city he always wanted to live in and make a change in his life (sign 2). When he then met a woman at a party, they danced together. Later on, he described how her scent was burned into his memory and that he couldn’t forget her because of this for him mind-blowing scent (sign 3). He then knew he wanted to marry her and fell (and stayed) in love.
It doesn’t mean that he wouldn’t have been happy with his partner that he almost married. But he would have never felt the same kind of love that he got from his soulmate.
What qualities does a soulmate have?
Finding one’s soulmate is a different experience for everyone. But I have read that firstly we will know when we meet them. You will feel like you have found something that you never knew was missing from you. And secondly, after finally having met our soulmate, living without them will now feel impossible!
A soulmate will never be able to hurt you purposely. They will always be on your side. They will always have your back and put you first. And this gives us a list of things a soulmate would never do. Your soulmate would never abuse you or hurt you physically (so, hit you or something like this). They wouldn’t use you for their advantage. They wouldn’t manipulate you. They wouldn’t make you feel unheard, unappreciated, unseen or unloved. They wouldn’t want to fight with you and if they do, they will apologize and forgive. If you ever feel like you deserve more, you do!
I have had relationships where I would lay in bed besides my partner and cry because they mistreated me. And the fact that they didn’t notice and probably wouldn’t care if they did, made me even more sad. You have to leave a relationship like this. A soulmate would never treat you like this. There could never be a toxic relationship with a soulmate, please remember that!
What about non-romantic soulmates?
Soulmates who aren’t a partner because they are a parent, a sibling or a friend have similar qualities. You won’t marry them of course, but that doesn’t mean they won’t be an important part of your life. They will make your life better simply because they are in it. They will protect you, guide you, support of you and be there for you whenever you need them. They will accompany you on your path and serve you as much as they can, they will teach you lessons that lead you to a better life. And you will do the same for them. Maybe you’re not meant to be together forever (maybe not even with your partner), but that is okay. Remember, everything that’s supposed to be, will be.
Something you shouldn’t do, is try to force them into your life or actively look for them. You can’t. You won’t ever recognize someone by their looks. Souls don’t meet by accident. Your soulmate will be guided to you when the time is right. You might have to overcome (many) obstacles to be able to be together and it might take you some time to realize it’s them, but you will eventually know!
P.S. movies that are about soulmates, are:
– Love, Rosie
– Before Midnight
– The Notebook
– Titanic
– The Lake House
– One Day
– 500 Days of Summer
– Meet Joe Black
– Beauty and the Beast
– A Walk to Remember
– Ghost
